Intimacy After Childbirth - Staying Sexually Active & Intimate

Intimacy After Childbirth:

Staying Sexually Active and Intimate

The main reasons that women experience a decrease in sexual desire are fatigue and lack of time. Sex and intimacy are not the most important part of a relationship, but they are definitely a highly valued aspect. For most couples, figuring out how to stay sexually active and intimate with a partner following the birth of a child can help not only the individuals within the relationship, but the relationship itself.  Below are some tips for staying sexually active and intimate following childbirth.

Make Time for Yourselves

After pregnancy, you may find that most of your time is spent caring for your newborn, rather than on trying to be sexual with your partner. It is important to have time for yourselves after the birth of a child to maintain your relationship. Many people find that it is easy to find time for each other by:

• Having a date night. Hire a babysitter, or ask a friend or family member to watch the little one(s).

If this is not an option, do things together while the baby is sleeping—take a shower, cook a nice dinner, or give each other a massage.

• Taking turns pleasing each other. Stress and fatigue may cause one or both partners to become

disinterested in sexual activity and taking turns means that one person does not have to exert too much energy.

• Maintaining privacy (as best as possible!). Putting the child in another room, even for just a few

nights a week, may make it easier to find time to be intimate with your partner.

Be Creative

Having a child can mean little time and opportunity for sexual activity (and fewer places!). Be creative

in coming up with times and places to be sexual with your partner. For example, try sexual activity in the shower while the child is napping or asleep for the night. This can help you accomplish two things at once! If you are able to go out on a date with your partner, try being intimate in the car or try going to a hotel. Use your imagination and work with your partner to come up with creative ideas that work for you!

Fight Fatigue

Fatigue is one of the most common complaints of new parents, and one of the most common reasons couples are no longer intimate after the birth of a baby. To help counter the effects of fatigue on your sex life, try engaging in sexual activity at different times during the day, not just before bedtime. Try to get a quick moment together while the child is taking an afternoon nap. If you are breastfeeding, you may find that it is helpful to nurse before sexual activity. That way, you can put the infant down for a nap and will have fewer distractions.

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Improving Sexual Health IV

Tools for Improving Your Sexual Health:

Vaginal Health


What is vaginal health?Vaginal health is important to maintaining women’s overall sexual health. A healthy vagina can
make intercourse more comfortable and pleasurable, and can help reduce a woman’s risk of
vaginal infections.

What can affect my vaginal health?
A number of things can affect a woman’s vaginal health, including diet, stress, medications, and
certain health conditions. If you feel your vaginal health has changed in any way, please consult
your health care provider for a health screening.

How can I maintain and/or improve my vaginal health?
Pure Romance has created products to help improve and maintain a woman’s vaginal health.


Fresh Start

An estrogen-free vaginal moisturizer developed to provide safe, instant, and long-lasting relief
from vaginal dryness. It feels like a woman’s natural moisture and is fragrance free, colorless, and
very gentle. This product is not a lubricant, spermicide, or contraceptive.

It is best to use this product before bedtime, two or three days a week or as directed by a health
care provider. To use Fresh Start, fill an applicator to the 1½ mark, insert into the vagina, and
squeeze the liquid into the vagina.

 Pure Romance’s Vaginal Dilator Set

Tapered devices used to slowly stretch the vaginal walls, helping alleviate pain or discomfort
experienced during penetration. Pure Romance’s Vaginal Dilator Set comes in six graduated sizes;
the smallest is about the size of a pinky finger.

To use Pure Romance’s Vaginal Dilator Set, start with the smallest dilator that feels most comfortable
for you. Insert vaginally using a water-based lubricant and leave inside the vagina for a period of time (usually 10-20 minutes or as directed by a health care provider). Use the same size for a few weeks and move up to a larger size, following the same procedure. It is not necessary to use all six sizes; only use what is comfortable for you, or follow the recommendations of your health care provider.


Ben Wa Balls
Silver-plated Kegel exercise balls used to tighten vaginal and bladder muscles. Use regularly to
restore vaginal elasticity and increase blood flow and natural lubrication.

To use Pure Romance’s Ben Wa Balls, lie down on a bed or other flat surface and insert one ball
into the vagina. Perform Kegel exercises using the Ben Wa Ball while lying down; try doing long
holds and fast squeezes for a few minutes a few times a week. Once this becomes easy, try doing
the exercises while standing. Next, move up to two Ben Wa Balls while lying down and eventually
try standing up. Talk to your health care provider to determine the exercise routine that is most
appropriate for you.


It is also important to visit your health care provider regularly to help maintain your vaginal health

Feel free to contact me anytime for more information.