Intimacy After Childbirth - Staying Sexually Active & Intimate

Intimacy After Childbirth:

Staying Sexually Active and Intimate

The main reasons that women experience a decrease in sexual desire are fatigue and lack of time. Sex and intimacy are not the most important part of a relationship, but they are definitely a highly valued aspect. For most couples, figuring out how to stay sexually active and intimate with a partner following the birth of a child can help not only the individuals within the relationship, but the relationship itself.  Below are some tips for staying sexually active and intimate following childbirth.

Make Time for Yourselves

After pregnancy, you may find that most of your time is spent caring for your newborn, rather than on trying to be sexual with your partner. It is important to have time for yourselves after the birth of a child to maintain your relationship. Many people find that it is easy to find time for each other by:

• Having a date night. Hire a babysitter, or ask a friend or family member to watch the little one(s).

If this is not an option, do things together while the baby is sleeping—take a shower, cook a nice dinner, or give each other a massage.

• Taking turns pleasing each other. Stress and fatigue may cause one or both partners to become

disinterested in sexual activity and taking turns means that one person does not have to exert too much energy.

• Maintaining privacy (as best as possible!). Putting the child in another room, even for just a few

nights a week, may make it easier to find time to be intimate with your partner.

Be Creative

Having a child can mean little time and opportunity for sexual activity (and fewer places!). Be creative

in coming up with times and places to be sexual with your partner. For example, try sexual activity in the shower while the child is napping or asleep for the night. This can help you accomplish two things at once! If you are able to go out on a date with your partner, try being intimate in the car or try going to a hotel. Use your imagination and work with your partner to come up with creative ideas that work for you!

Fight Fatigue

Fatigue is one of the most common complaints of new parents, and one of the most common reasons couples are no longer intimate after the birth of a baby. To help counter the effects of fatigue on your sex life, try engaging in sexual activity at different times during the day, not just before bedtime. Try to get a quick moment together while the child is taking an afternoon nap. If you are breastfeeding, you may find that it is helpful to nurse before sexual activity. That way, you can put the infant down for a nap and will have fewer distractions.

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Intimacy After Childbirth

Intimacy After Childbirth: Fact Sheet

The Challenges:

• In a 2000 study, 83% of women experienced sexual issues three months after delivery, and 64% experienced sexual issues six months after delivery.

 

• In the same study, only 15% of women who had sexual problems following pregnancy reported it to their doctors.

• A 2003 study demonstrated that women experiencing postpartum depression were significantly less likely to have resumed sexual activity during the time of the study than non-depressed women.

• The same 2003 study showed that 60% of women had not talked to anyone (partner or health care provider) about their sexual problems following pregnancy and delivery.

• The two most common questions for health care providers among mothers and fathers four months postpartum are "How soon after childbirth is birth control needed?" and "How soon do most couples resume intercourse after childbirth?"

Overcoming the Challenges:

• In the 2000 study from above, 89% of respondents had resumed sexual activity within six months following childbirth.

• Women in a 2005 study experienced orgasm around 12 weeks after childbirth.

• Women with less invasive modes of childbirth with fewer complications tend to have fewer postpartum sexual side effects than women with invasive modes of delivery and more complications during childbirth.

We, at Pure Romance, feel that it is very important to take care of your body before, during, and after pregnancy and delivery. These statistics help reiterate the fact that while sexuality and sexual health may change during pregnancy, they will not be changed forever. To help maintain and improve your vaginal health before, during, and after pregnancy and childbirth, perform Kegel exercises, use a water-based vaginal lubricant, take things slowly, and remember that, with time, your body will regain some normalcy.


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Improving Sexual Health IV

Tools for Improving Your Sexual Health:

Vaginal Health


What is vaginal health?Vaginal health is important to maintaining women’s overall sexual health. A healthy vagina can
make intercourse more comfortable and pleasurable, and can help reduce a woman’s risk of
vaginal infections.

What can affect my vaginal health?
A number of things can affect a woman’s vaginal health, including diet, stress, medications, and
certain health conditions. If you feel your vaginal health has changed in any way, please consult
your health care provider for a health screening.

How can I maintain and/or improve my vaginal health?
Pure Romance has created products to help improve and maintain a woman’s vaginal health.


Fresh Start

An estrogen-free vaginal moisturizer developed to provide safe, instant, and long-lasting relief
from vaginal dryness. It feels like a woman’s natural moisture and is fragrance free, colorless, and
very gentle. This product is not a lubricant, spermicide, or contraceptive.

It is best to use this product before bedtime, two or three days a week or as directed by a health
care provider. To use Fresh Start, fill an applicator to the 1½ mark, insert into the vagina, and
squeeze the liquid into the vagina.

 Pure Romance’s Vaginal Dilator Set

Tapered devices used to slowly stretch the vaginal walls, helping alleviate pain or discomfort
experienced during penetration. Pure Romance’s Vaginal Dilator Set comes in six graduated sizes;
the smallest is about the size of a pinky finger.

To use Pure Romance’s Vaginal Dilator Set, start with the smallest dilator that feels most comfortable
for you. Insert vaginally using a water-based lubricant and leave inside the vagina for a period of time (usually 10-20 minutes or as directed by a health care provider). Use the same size for a few weeks and move up to a larger size, following the same procedure. It is not necessary to use all six sizes; only use what is comfortable for you, or follow the recommendations of your health care provider.


Ben Wa Balls
Silver-plated Kegel exercise balls used to tighten vaginal and bladder muscles. Use regularly to
restore vaginal elasticity and increase blood flow and natural lubrication.

To use Pure Romance’s Ben Wa Balls, lie down on a bed or other flat surface and insert one ball
into the vagina. Perform Kegel exercises using the Ben Wa Ball while lying down; try doing long
holds and fast squeezes for a few minutes a few times a week. Once this becomes easy, try doing
the exercises while standing. Next, move up to two Ben Wa Balls while lying down and eventually
try standing up. Talk to your health care provider to determine the exercise routine that is most
appropriate for you.


It is also important to visit your health care provider regularly to help maintain your vaginal health

Feel free to contact me anytime for more information.

Female Sex Drive Decline Tied to Hormones, Evolution

Fasinating Article. Definitely check it out!


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/02/female-sex-drive-decline_n_1249589.html




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Jen

Sexual Health

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22 Inexpensive Ways for Romance

22 Inexpensive Ways for Romance

Being in relationship with your spouse or significant other can get lost when so much focus is on success and work. After being together with my husband for more than 22 years, I have found that my husband is not looking for me to get him the most expensive gift to keep him in love with me. He wants to know that the relationship is important and I will be there for him when he needs me. Doing more little things with him throughout the year keeps us connected and supporting each other in our relationship.

It takes time to plan and put effort into your romantic life. You might want to dress yourself up a little, write a note, or just think about how you want your attitude to be while you’re together. If you want your spouse to enjoy being with you, make your attitude enjoyable.

Here are 22 inexpensive ways to connect, be together and keep your relationship as important as anything else in your life. Taking on one or two of these tips each month could create romance all year long. Enjoy these tips and feel free to share one of your own.

1. Be a tourist and go around your town and rediscover your town and rediscover each other. Likes, dislikes, passions and so on. You might be surprise by what you find!
2. Visit a local museum or art gallery, look around, share with one another which items or pieces of art you like and don’t like. It allows you both to acknowledge your differences.
3. Go to a fancy restaurant after you’ve eaten dinner at home and just order dessert and coffee. Just a little time to be in public and keep in budget.
4. Light candles in your bedroom, get a bottle of warm massage oil, and give each other massages.
5. Hire your kids to make you breakfast in bed and serve you both. They may want a special toy, book or to have an outing with you. Let the kids enjoy your relationship too!
6. Go to a local coffee shop together and talk about all the ways in which each of you feel blessed these days, as well as your hopes and dreams for the future.
7. Find a cookbook, pick out a delicious looking meal or dessert, and make it together. Include the kids too if you want.
8. Play board games, cards or do a crossword puzzle together. Turn off the tv and be with each other!
9. Go to a community play, sporting event, fundraiser or a school concert. Get out and you will have more to talk about.
10. On a Saturday morning, make breakfast together, take it back to bed and eat and then snuggle together.
11. If you have a wood burning fireplace, set out a blanket, play music, make a fire, and make popcorn or S’mores in the fireplace.
12. Read a book out loud to one another. Any kind of book works. However if you don’t want to talk about business don’t read a business book. Get my point? I recommend the 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
13. Take a blanket outside somewhere (or even on the roof) and stargaze with your sweetie. A thermos of hot cocoa or decaf coffee is a bonus.
14. Make a date and both of you create a dream board for your relationship together. It helps to see what the other person’s likes and dislikes might be. Also helps to support them with their ideal relationship!
15. Put your favorite hot beverage into a ‘to-go’ cup, bundle up, and go on a walk together at a nearby park.
16. Feed the kids early and rent a movie for them to watch. While they are watching movie have a candle lit dinner for two and then invite the kids back for dessert. Or give the kids their own dessert and you both have dessert when they go to bed ;o)
17. Set up a tent in the back yard and camp out for the evening. Lay out and star gaze and enjoy each other’s company.
18. Set a date in the middle of the day while the kids are at school or napping. Enjoy sandwiches and cuddling.
19. Invite another couple to join you for dinner and pick a restaurant that you have not been to and pretend as though you are Secret Shoppers. Ask a lot of questions of the host and servers. Creates a lot of laughs.
20. Trade off with other couples for babysitting and date nights. Saves money and more than one relationship get’s to enjoy the benefits!
21. Invite another couple or two to a “pot luck” in your home and discover more about your friends in the process.
22. Bring your minds together and discover an inexpensive date together.

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